Eventually one day things might change within us. We are drawn to someone, somewhere or even something and from then on we know, we are going to change our direction, start walking on a different path, a new one. We might have lived a different life for quite a few years and the idea of Change is scary and in a way intimidating. There is a comfort zone that we have gotten used to, a daily routine we have been following consistently and a built network of friends in our chosen environment, that we are not easily willing to leave. A New Chapter is not a change in what Coffee I drink in the morning or what gym I go to, the decision to enter into a New Chapter requires real Change.
All of a sudden you see a possibility in front of you and you feel the sudden urge to take it on and go for it. It might be a door opening in your career, it could be a change of heart, leading to a completely new idea for a job, a hidden passion that you yet haven't considered giving a chance, or maybe you have met someone, a best friend, a mentor or a partner, that has made you see things differently, maybe asked you to change locations, there is many Whats, Whos and Wheres that can alter your perspective and wake your suppressed wishes, ideas and desires, or simply give you new input. It might also be the case that you have had something happen to you that has changed your life. You might have seperated from a long-term partner, you have lost a job or even lost someone. At that point the Change in your life has been put on you and you will have to handle what comes after.
The decision to enter into a New Chapter requires real Change.
So let's say you are in a situation where you've either decided to make a change or have been affected by an event in your life, that has put you in a position where you NEED Change. How do we best prepare for the New Chapter ahead of us?
First things First, we make peace with the fact that it will not be like it used to be, we make peace with the idea of having to leave our comfort zone and we make place for the bravery to venture out from the Usual. We all have heard a thousand different inspirational quotes about personal change to receive personal gain and I'm sure we have all thought about it before, taking that risk, going on that trip, speaking up about that, making that move, but have we done it? Barely. So now let's make the peace with letting go of our warm cozy protection coats and throwing on our racing attire. Letting go is the first step of Getting ahold of the New.
Once you have made peace with that idea, comes the second step of the journey, detecting the change needed. Where do you have to change, what and most importantly Why? Knowing why things require changing helps us to understand the roots of our decision to go for it in the first place. Normally the Why of things resolves the consequences. Once we know why it was good to block that number, or get up at seven in the morning, or start going for a run every afternoon, or quitting that job, or starting that website, we will not regret the consequences that will come from it, because we know Why we're doing this, what we are getting from it.
So you know what to change and why to change it and on top of that you have made peace with what you are leaving behind. You now have the mindset for Change. But your mindset will not last if your surroundings, your environment stays unchanged. You have to make sure that your environment will tolerate your Changes, support them an you on it and even inspire you even more within your new journey. So if your surroundings are adapted to what used to be, then they will make your start in the New Chapter hard for you. There might be friends that hold you back, family that doesn't accept you taking risks or thinking you're better of safe. You might live somewhere that you connect bad memories with or that reminds you of your old life, the one that you are trying to change. Renovate that room, switch the furniture, stop going to that cafe, ignore that one nagging relative and make it clear to your friends that you are happier on your new path. If they don't support you, let them go! You are moving on for your own good and let me tell you if you're not doing or feeling good than what is the meaning of YOUR life. This is your one life and if you need this Change then this is the time where you put yourself first. You will notice who will support you and move on with you to your New Chapter.
Now it's up to you. You have the mindset and you're in the right place, surrounded by the right people. Now you have to believe in yourself and I promise you, the changes that you have made will already make you feel much more accomplished and you will never have to say: I never really tried...
Artwork by Lindsay Rapp (insta: lindsayrapp) check out her website: lindsayrappgallery.com/collections/all-prints
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